It’s National Arthritis Week from 12th – 18th October and I’ve been asked by Arthritis Research UK to ‘donate’ a blog post to raise awareness about the week. One of the suggestions was to do a Q&A – 10 things you might not know. The thing about arthritis is it isn’t really a universal condition, and affects us all differently, even though there will be things that we share (pain mainly!), so I thought the Q&A was a really good way to highlight this and how it impacts on my own life.
The condition I live with is called: Palindromic Rheumatism. Most people have never heard of it. Some medical professionals haven’t even heard of it. Palindromic means a word that is the same when you read it backwards and forwards. In the case of this type of arthritis, it means that the joint flares come and go. They can be in one joint at a time or many. They can be there for hours, days or even weeks. They can flit from joint to joint with no warning, and sometimes I can wake up with a pain in one joint, and go to bed with a pain in a completely different joint. There is no rhyme or reason to my particular PR. I can’t predict when I’ll flare or when the flare will go.
I was diagnosed aged: 34
How my arthritis most affects my day to day life: Because PR causes pain and fatigue, I have to be careful that when I don’t have any pain or fatigue that I don’t overdo it. Its unpredictability means that I sometimes have to cancel things at the last minute. It’s hard to plan when I don’t know how I’m going to feel. I can have loads of energy and do lots of physical things and brain taxing things. I can also have days when I can’t get out of bed and even formulating a sentence is too taxing on my brain. The one predictable thing about my PR is that it is not predictable. Even when I am not flaring or fatigued, I don’t forget that I have PR because I have to plan and manage my energy carefully. I also have quite a strict regime to help me live better with PR. I eat healthily (no meat, minimum dairy, no gluten at all, not much refined sugar), exercise often (most days of the week I will do SOMETHING), and meditate most days. I probably spend a lot of energy and time looking after my mental and physical health. I was already prone to depression before developing PR. Since developing PR, I am even more likely to sink into depression so the exercise and meditation is as important in keeping me mentally healthy, as physically healthy.
A new hobby / interest I’ve taken up since my diagnosis: The most significant thing I’ve learned or taken up since my diagnosis is learning about mindfulness and meditation. It has helped my mental and physical health enormously, and I use it in my work (teaching it to others), as well as in my daily life. I may not have decided to attend a course about meditation if I had not been trying to learn ways of managing my pain.
What living with arthritis has taught me: Living with arthritis has taught me many things. One of the lessons I’ve learned is to be grateful for the things that I have, and the parts of me that work, and not to spend too much energy on the things I don’t have and the parts of me that don’t work. I’ve also learned to live more in the present, than to spend too much time worrying about the future.
My advice for other people living with arthritis: Arthritis is one word to describe lots of different illnesses and everyone’s experience of it will be different. So my advice would be to spend time finding YOUR best way of living with it, rather than to think there is a ‘one size fits all’ way of staying healthy. Don’t give up trying new things – even if you’ve had it for years – and instead of fighting your arthritis (you probably aren’t going to beat it!), learn to accept and live with it. This isn’t the same as giving up. It’s simply recognising what your limitations are at the time, and making the best of it.
My biggest challenge/triumph has been: I was always so frightened of pain when I was younger. So my biggest challenge has been to learn to live with pain. There are lots of triumphs over the years, but my most recent biggest challenge has been to do a ‘crow’ pose in yoga. I can’t do it every time, and mostly I can only stay there for a few seconds, but this is a huge triumph for me, given that my wrists have been very weak due to the PR and flare a lot. Interestingly, they have flared less often since my yoga practice has intensified.
What gets me through a tough day: Some days are just tough! Recognising that some days are tougher than others and sometimes you just have to be EVEN KINDER to yourself and do whatever it takes to make that day bearable – even if that’s going to bed and crying!
How my friends and family help me: My friends and family help me ENORMOUSLY by trying to understand, by offering to help when I need it, but not smothering me with help when I don’t.
This National Arthritis Week I’d like to say thank you to: everyone who’s been with me on this journey! That’s too long a list to type up now, but it includes all my friends, my family, my consultant, and my employer! Also, my yoga, zumba and pilates teachers for keeping my mind and body as healthy as they can be.